I was in the dining room. It was a dark place with dark furniture, but I loved it. Aunt Frene and Uncle Red had a stone house on Ledbetter Drive. I loved to go there. They had rules. I didn’t mind that. I just loved visiting that strange world of theirs that was so different from my world. The furniture was different, the smells, the music on the phonograph. They had Phil Harris records. The Preacher and the Bear was my favorite. It was always an adventure to a new dimension when I went to the Kepke home.
Maybe I was four or five when the incident occurred. The lady was tall, stately, slim, dressed in clothes like some ladies wore to church. We were in the dining room. She asked me my name. “Allen” I replied. Her face was friendly but serious. “Ohhh! Allen!” she said. “That is a noble name. That is like the name of a prince. You are princely and noble” That is a line of code that abides. Even today, I know I am princely and noble. The important lady said so, and she believed it, and so do I, still.
We all lay down enduring code each time we interact with a child. Do you want a better world? Hone your kid coder skills. Even the briefest line of code can transform lives and societies. Intentionally or not, we code kids. This is the way of our species.
This poem seems most appropriate on this New Year’s Eve 2016, at least for a friend or two who speak German and perchance for some unknown visitor wer Deutsch spricht. Surprisingly, I could find this poem nowhere online among the many works of Maria Dutli-Rutishauser. So I copied it from an Italian poetry quarterly : Voci Nuove: Quaderni de Poesia Contemporanea, No. 64, April 1967. Why do I have this little book? I have a poem published therein, but in English, not German. Also, vorwärts auf Deutsch! Oh, this poem is most relevant if you happen to be camping.
von Maria Dutli-Rutishauser
Lasst uns stille werden
da das Jahr vergeht.
Wir sind wie der Nebel
der im Tale weht.
Flüchtig ist der Tage
Über eine Weile
wird es Winter sein.
Wie ein Schleier senkt sich
Wehmut auf die Welt.
Lasst uns stille werden –
warm sind Herd und Zelt.
Thank you, Tim Ferriss, Jocko Willink and Echo Charles . You just gifted me the most urgent podcast message I have ever heard: Jocko Podcast Episode #50.
For the love of God, share Jocko Podcast Episode #50 NOW. And if God is not among your loved ones, for the love of them, share it NOW! This is a message every teenager should hear NOW, every Veteran should hear NOW, every college student should hear NOW. Every ________ should hear NOW. Fill in the blank. Share, share, share, NOW! Why?
Between Thanksgiving and Christmas some years back, my cousin Tyler killed himself, all alone. He had reached out to me and to my sons, just asking what we were doing over the holidays. We sensed he was fishing for an invitation, but we were busy.
We never heard from Tyler again. Instead my aunt called. She could not handle it. I flew out to California and cleaned up what Tyler left behind. He never saw the New Year. And every New Year, I try to forget it could have been different. But I can’t because it could have been.
You don’t need to carry a burden like this the rest of your life. SHARE Jocko Podcast #50 NOW. Listen for the quiet desperation that may lie behind the polite question or phone call of a friend or relative, and SHARE Jocko Podcast #50. Share yourself, your ear, your heart, your time. A false positive carries little risk, but a false negative can mean a death to be borne forever. You can make a difference you may never know you made until in due time you yourself pass over.
In Our Hands
Discipline your children while you still have the chance;
indulging them destroys them. (The Book of Proverbs, Chapter 19, Verse 18, The Message, BibleGateway.com)
We feed them sugar in its myriad forms, buy them a dizzying array of plastic stuff, and use the TV as our baby sitter. Then we pay the dentist. But the chance is gone to form their character and their intellect.
This holiday season, let’s give them the gift of ourselves, an informed us.
So what will I do for Sophie? I’ll play Zoominoes with her tonight and do tic-tac-toe. She loves that and cheats. Not really. She just changes the rules as we go along. Maybe she is on her way to Extreme Ownership. She does lead to win. By that I mean she grabs the pen and changes my O to an X. Voilá! Victory for the five-year old.
Oh, and maybe I’ll revisit Simplicity Parenting, the best book I know on child rearing, other than maybe The Book of Proverbs, which takes us back to where this post started.
The wonders of modern medical research:
Over the past 20 years, mind-body medicine has provided evidence that psychological factors can play a major role in such illnesses as heart disease, and that mind-body techniques can aid in their treatment. Clinical trials have indicated mind-body therapies to be helpful in managing arthritis and other chronic pain conditions. There is also evidence they can help to improve psychological functioning and quality of life, and may help to ease symptoms of disease. (National Institutes of Health Medline Plus, Winter 2008)
A few years earlier, the world renowned researcher and scholar Solomon put it this way:
A sound mind makes for a robust body,
but runaway emotions corrode the bones. (The Book of Proverbs, Chapter 14, Verse 30, The Message, BibleGateway.com)
Working hard to control my bone corrosion factor, BCF (my own acronym). Since reading Extreme Ownership and listening to JockoPodcast.com, my BCF has dropped 19%, and I don’t even have a Trooper Rash Guard! Go figure!
NOTE: The Solomon Project cost U.S. tax payers nothing.